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Why Should You Add A Doula?

By: Care Messer Birth, Birth Doula, Doulas October 11, 2018

We’ve already established in previous posts, that the road to a calm intimate birth is helped by eliminating all the excess people and/or distractions that can get in the way of you and your partner building a beautiful experience together. Then why would I now suggest that you add a perfect stranger to the mix? Why not just add a …


Getting Over Your “What If’s”…

By: Care Messer Birth, Labor, Pregnancy September 27, 2018

What if? I think I’ve pretty much heard all the negative “what if’s” when it comes to birth. As an educator – I hear how “I am going to fail at birth, or ”I am not planning anything because nothing ever works for me if I do that,” and “why would things go my way? – they never have,” etc. …


Use Your BRAIN!

By: Care Messer Birth, Education, Pregnancy August 30, 2018

The B.R.A.I.N. acronym is something that birth educators, doulas and midwives have been using for a long time to help parents become more educated and engaged with their care providers. The world of birth medicine and obstetrics seems very overwhelming to a lay person. And in this age of “Dr. Google” information, so many articles, so many Facebook posts, so …


I Had a Natural Birth After Having a C-Section

By: Care Messer Birth, VBAC August 24, 2018

What is a VBAC? It’s the acronym for “Vaginal Birth After Cesarean.” One of our HypnoBirthing, VBAC moms shares her story, along with her husband. The tips and tools they used and how they made it to the hospital in time for 4 pushes and a baby on her chest!  


Sexy Birth – Oh, It’s a THING!

By: Care Messer Birth, Sex & Intimacy August 16, 2018

Sexy birth – You down? Believe it or not, there is a sexy side to labor and birth that does not get addressed in normal conversation. I don’t know if it’s because of our countries foundational Puritan values or if people just have so much shame around sex that it’s too embarrassing to talk about. You know that 99. 9% …


Birth Plan or Bust!

By: Care Messer Birth, Education, Pregnancy August 3, 2018

I have seen birth plans that list every ingredient in every vaccinations and the toxicity level of products that should not be used on their baby. I have seen birth plans with more exclamation points at the end of every sentence then curse words on a ship’s deck. I have seen birth plans that are as detailed as a thesis, …


Keep It Simple | Birth is NOT a Spectator Sport…

By: Care Messer Birth, Labor July 26, 2018

Why does everyone feel they should be invited to your birth? It’s commonplace now with all the 3 minute, rushed, family and friend saturated, emergency looking Hollywood births we’ve watched on TV for years, that you already have family making airline arrangements two weeks earlier than necessary to make sure that they don’t miss your vagina opening in full glory. …


Picture This | Make it Happen…

By: Care Messer Birth, Education July 19, 2018

A clear picture or ”vision” of what you’d like your baby’s birth to be, is the best way to set yourself up for success in achieving those results.  I think we all start off with the idea that we “just want a healthy baby at the end of the day” and “if I can avoid a c section that would …


Fairy Tale vs Real Life

By: Care Messer Birth, Education July 11, 2018

So with all of these books, websites, birth plans, options in where to birth, how to birth -medicated, not medicated, scheduled belly birth – are you overwhelmed yet? Or have you just decided or resolved yourself to –“The hospital knows best. I’m just gonna show up and have a baby.”  That’s an option. As a matter of fact, it was …


Freedom From Fear

By: Care Messer Birth, Fear Release, Pregnancy July 4, 2018

Emotionally dealing with ALL the ideas and feelings that come up around pregnancy, labor and birth is part of our natural transition into this new phase as a woman – becoming a mother in the physical. My adoption of a sweet, little 5 year old girl(8 yrs old by the time it was final) was my introduction into motherhood day …


Ready or Not – Your Baby is Coming!

By: Care Messer Birth, Education, Fear Release June 27, 2018

It makes me sad that when we think of birth – the images that quickly come to mind aren’t happy, empowered and joyful. A disservice our modern day media has “gifted us” where we can easily share and perpetuate even more fear and distrust of this beautiful process. The beauty and power of pregnancy and birth blows my mind. From …


It’s Not About You, It’s About Your Baby!

By: Care Messer Birth, Pregnancy June 20, 2018

There are many reasons why we just gestate a baby for 10 months. This 10 month transition time is crucial for all of us involved. Babies do their part physically by growing their many different systems and becoming fully prepared to live on the outside of us.  But they also serve us emotionally in growing us into our new role …


Sex During Pregnancy! Why You Should Keep Doing It…

By: Care Messer Birth, Sex & Intimacy June 13, 2018

One of the main reasons I talk about sex, educate about the sexiness of sex and keep the sex talk fun with the families I serve is to bring about the connection factor between the two of them. Sex is the direct line to how most of us get to the planet. It’s one of our greatest commonalities among humans …


Why You So Scared To Have A Baby?

By: Care Messer Birth, Fear Release, Pregnancy June 6, 2018

Birth is happening all around us. Always. Daily. Nightly. Afternoonly. Birth happens on this planet. Even in our backyards(bugs, birds and lizards folks – and hopefully not your neighbors in their backyards!) Humans have babies. Everything alive duplicates itself. Why then, do you cringe at the thought of a baby coming out of your body? Your powerful, magical body that …


The Biggest Difference Between Men and Women | What You Need to Know

By: Care Messer Education, Sex & Intimacy May 30, 2018

What’s The Biggest Difference between Men and Women? Are our bodies that different? The penis and the vagina are more alike than you think. Today we’re giving you the run down on boy parts VS girl parts – stuff the tennis coach left out of your high school sex ed class! All perfectly made with similar functions. Before we get …


Who’s Teaching Who?

By: Jill Mesaros Parenting, Postpartum May 24, 2018

When I found out my daughter was pregnant I began to imagine what it would be like to be a grandma.  I fantasized about the kind of grandma I would be. I conjured up elaborate scenarios of teaching my grandchild about life, about the importance of paying attention and being full present in each moment.   I imagined myself teaching him …


Who is this lady talking about Babies?

By: Care Messer Birth, Education, Sex & Intimacy May 23, 2018

  What do we need to talk about with sex, pregnancy and birth to help labor be smooth? Care has figured it out! Her off the wall approach to vaginas, brings laughter and a silliness to the somber and fearful topic, that is birth. Having open class discussions about things usually not talked about – develops connection and an excitement …


San Diego’s Most Inspiring Stories – San Diego Voyager Magazine

By: san diego voyager Pregnancy May 11, 2018

Today we’d like to introduce you to Care Messer. Thanks for sharing your story with us Care. So, let’s start at the beginning and we can move on from there. I began in Utah with small-town ideals, hoping to end up with a few kids and picket fence by the end of my life. I worked several jobs to get …


The Survivor’s Road to Parenthood, Postpartum and Breastfeeding, Part 4

By: Anita Butler Breastfeeding, Postpartum, Sexual Abuse May 10, 2018

We’ve all heard the stories, whether from friends, personal acquaintances, or on the news:  A postpartum woman has done the unthinkable, whether to her baby or to herself, leaving her loved ones and so many others in unimaginable shock and grief.  Seldom are we ever told her history: what were the dynamics of her marriage/relationship, what kind of religious background …


The Survivor’s Journey, Pregnancy and Birth, Part 3

By: Anita Butler Pregnancy, Sexual Abuse May 3, 2018

In last week’s post, we considered possible challenges around fertility, conception, and the prospect of parenthood for those with a history of sexual abuse.  For some, this is where you may encounter your first challenge of the journey. For others, conception comes easy and is greeted with joy – or can even come as a surprise, possibly even in spite …