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Birth Plan or Bust!

By: Care Messer Birth, Education, Pregnancy August 3, 2018

I have seen birth plans that list every ingredient in every vaccinations and the toxicity level of products that should not be used on their baby. I have seen birth plans with more exclamation points at the end of every sentence then curse words on a ship’s deck. I have seen birth plans that are as detailed as a thesis, …


Keep It Simple | Birth is NOT a Spectator Sport…

By: Care Messer Birth, Labor July 26, 2018

Why does everyone feel they should be invited to your birth? It’s commonplace now with all the 3 minute, rushed, family and friend saturated, emergency looking Hollywood births we’ve watched on TV for years, that you already have family making airline arrangements two weeks earlier than necessary to make sure that they don’t miss your vagina opening in full glory. …


Picture This | Make it Happen…

By: Care Messer Birth, Education July 19, 2018

A clear picture or ”vision” of what you’d like your baby’s birth to be, is the best way to set yourself up for success in achieving those results.  I think we all start off with the idea that we “just want a healthy baby at the end of the day” and “if I can avoid a c section that would …


Fairy Tale vs Real Life

By: Care Messer Birth, Education July 11, 2018

So with all of these books, websites, birth plans, options in where to birth, how to birth -medicated, not medicated, scheduled belly birth – are you overwhelmed yet? Or have you just decided or resolved yourself to –“The hospital knows best. I’m just gonna show up and have a baby.”  That’s an option. As a matter of fact, it was …


Freedom From Fear

By: Care Messer Birth, Fear Release, Pregnancy July 4, 2018

Emotionally dealing with ALL the ideas and feelings that come up around pregnancy, labor and birth is part of our natural transition into this new phase as a woman – becoming a mother in the physical. My adoption of a sweet, little 5 year old girl(8 yrs old by the time it was final) was my introduction into motherhood day …


Ready or Not – Your Baby is Coming!

By: Care Messer Birth, Education, Fear Release June 27, 2018

It makes me sad that when we think of birth – the images that quickly come to mind aren’t happy, empowered and joyful. A disservice our modern day media has “gifted us” where we can easily share and perpetuate even more fear and distrust of this beautiful process. The beauty and power of pregnancy and birth blows my mind. From …


It’s Not About You, It’s About Your Baby!

By: Care Messer Birth, Pregnancy June 20, 2018

There are many reasons why we just gestate a baby for 10 months. This 10 month transition time is crucial for all of us involved. Babies do their part physically by growing their many different systems and becoming fully prepared to live on the outside of us.  But they also serve us emotionally in growing us into our new role …


Sex During Pregnancy! Why You Should Keep Doing It…

By: Care Messer Birth, Sex & Intimacy June 13, 2018

One of the main reasons I talk about sex, educate about the sexiness of sex and keep the sex talk fun with the families I serve is to bring about the connection factor between the two of them. Sex is the direct line to how most of us get to the planet. It’s one of our greatest commonalities among humans …


Why You So Scared To Have A Baby?

By: Care Messer Birth, Fear Release, Pregnancy June 6, 2018

Birth is happening all around us. Always. Daily. Nightly. Afternoonly. Birth happens on this planet. Even in our backyards(bugs, birds and lizards folks – and hopefully not your neighbors in their backyards!) Humans have babies. Everything alive duplicates itself. Why then, do you cringe at the thought of a baby coming out of your body? Your powerful, magical body that …


The Biggest Difference Between Men and Women | What You Need to Know

By: Care Messer Education, Sex & Intimacy May 30, 2018

What’s The Biggest Difference between Men and Women? Are our bodies that different? The penis and the vagina are more alike than you think. Today we’re giving you the run down on boy parts VS girl parts – stuff the tennis coach left out of your high school sex ed class! All perfectly made with similar functions. Before we get …


Who’s Teaching Who?

By: Jill Mesaros Parenting, Postpartum May 24, 2018

When I found out my daughter was pregnant I began to imagine what it would be like to be a grandma.  I fantasized about the kind of grandma I would be. I conjured up elaborate scenarios of teaching my grandchild about life, about the importance of paying attention and being full present in each moment.   I imagined myself teaching him …


Who is this lady talking about Babies?

By: Care Messer Birth, Education, Sex & Intimacy May 23, 2018

  What do we need to talk about with sex, pregnancy and birth to help labor be smooth? Care has figured it out! Her off the wall approach to vaginas, brings laughter and a silliness to the somber and fearful topic, that is birth. Having open class discussions about things usually not talked about – develops connection and an excitement …


San Diego’s Most Inspiring Stories – San Diego Voyager Magazine

By: san diego voyager Pregnancy May 11, 2018

Today we’d like to introduce you to Care Messer. Thanks for sharing your story with us Care. So, let’s start at the beginning and we can move on from there. I began in Utah with small-town ideals, hoping to end up with a few kids and picket fence by the end of my life. I worked several jobs to get …


The Survivor’s Road to Parenthood, Postpartum and Breastfeeding, Part 4

By: Anita Butler Breastfeeding, Postpartum, Sexual Abuse May 10, 2018

We’ve all heard the stories, whether from friends, personal acquaintances, or on the news:  A postpartum woman has done the unthinkable, whether to her baby or to herself, leaving her loved ones and so many others in unimaginable shock and grief.  Seldom are we ever told her history: what were the dynamics of her marriage/relationship, what kind of religious background …


The Survivor’s Journey, Pregnancy and Birth, Part 3

By: Anita Butler Pregnancy, Sexual Abuse May 3, 2018

In last week’s post, we considered possible challenges around fertility, conception, and the prospect of parenthood for those with a history of sexual abuse.  For some, this is where you may encounter your first challenge of the journey. For others, conception comes easy and is greeted with joy – or can even come as a surprise, possibly even in spite …


Survivor’s Road to Parenthood: Fertility, Conception and Sexual Abuse Part 2

By: Anita Butler Fertility, Sexual Abuse April 26, 2018

You very well may have “worked through” a substantial amount of your wounds from the sexual abuse of your past.  Or, maybe it’s tucked so far away from your conscious awareness, you hardly think of it any more, even though you might have puzzling difficulties in your relationship emotionally and sexually – and it simply doesn’t occur to you how …


A Dirt Date with My Grandson

By: Jill Mesaros Parenting April 23, 2018

We sit in the dirt, playing with the leaves and the peppercorns from the pepper tree.  We came out to swing, but today the beloved swing cannot compare to playing in the dirt. This summer my grandson went on his first camping trips.  Apparently scooting around in the dirt (he’s a scooter, not a crawler) is about as exciting as …


Aligning Heart and Mind for Humankind’s Evolution

By: Rachelle Garcia Seliga Postpartum, Pregnancy April 21, 2018

Innate’ is that which is natural and inherent. ‘Traditions’ are those teachings that are passed down from one generation to the next. Our innate physiological design offers us a map to health and wellness. We THRIVE when we follow that which has been laid out for us. Traditional medicinal knowledge is stored within our blood memory, within the Earth, Air, …


The Survivor’s Road to Parenthood, Part 1

By: Anita Butler Fertility, Sexual Abuse April 19, 2018

The road to parenthood is a sacred life passage for all to go through it, filled with unforgettable joys, intense trials, and so many surprises!  The need for support along the journey is often under-acknowledged in our culture, and therefore largely unmet. The messages expectant and new parents receive have the potential to lead to a happy, empowering journey, or …


The Perfect Parent

By: Jill Mesaros Parenting April 16, 2018

I never anticipated being a parent.  I was not one of those little girls who dreamed of getting married and raising a family some day.  I was a child of the 60’s and 70’s, caught in that vortex between the Beaver Cleaver 1950’s and the angst of the women’s liberation movement.  I thought I had to grow up and BE …