Your Best Teacher Is Your Last Mistake…

By: Care Messer Doulas November 12, 2018


Your best teacher is your last mistake…

I don’t know why perfection seems to be the main goal. The social pressure to be the best, “all knowing” and flawless isn’t even attainable. But how much time do we waste making sure that our IG pictures look perfect, our snapchats are super upbeat and our FB life looks like we have it altogether. We even Pinterest our food for the events we attend so we appear as if we are amazing.

Well we are amazing! We are amazing just by being us. We are worthy because of who we are when we came to the planet. There is no shame in flaws, mistakes and bumbles. We grow from our choices(both good and bad)and from the challenges we face. Mistakes with life, relationships, love and self discipline, define who we are. We should have pride in how we have overcome the yuck and help each other do the same. #empathy

If we embrace the lesson these “teachers” are showing us, we stop having them appear time after time. If we resist them, complain about them, avoid them – they will still be there on the next go around. They don’t just go away. Everything shows itself for a reason. I don’t believe in mistakes – I believe in divine timing. I have experienced that when my life is ready to give away a pattern or a long held belief – the mistake(lesson) will show up AGAIN. It’s drugergy, it’s painful and it’s murky. I’m a slow learner so after a few hundred times, I get it and can release the murk and embrace the lesson.

Being grateful for the “not so happy” teachers in our life, can switch our thinking from dread to “ahhhh – what’s next if I learn this?” Gratitude is a game changer. How can we teach our children this lesson if we don’t have action steps in our own lives in place? Teaching our kids to learn from things the first or second time can shorten their learning curve. Also allowing them to understand that mistakes do not mean we are bad. They simply mean next time we make a different choice and start fresh.

About the author:
Care is the founder of the Birth Education Center, San Diego HypnoBirthing and Cuddle Sanctuary San Diego. She is a Birth Educator, Hypnotherapist, Birth and Postpartum Doula, INNATE Care Provider, Erotic Blueprint Coach and also professional Cuddler. She specializes in connection work between people and increasing self boundaries for a more balanced life together.