Morning Routine For Success – Doula Series Ep. 2

By: Care Messer Birth Doula, Doulas, Education January 10, 2019

A good morning routine starts your day off right and that is so important for a creating a successful business. As a new doula, you may not recognize that YOU ARE NOW A BUSINESS OWNER! Looking professional is a habit and feeling professional comes from working on YOU before you work on your business. All successful women in business have habits they cultivate daily to build self-confidence, increase their skill set around goal achieving and things that keep them focused on the magic they want to create in the world. Here are some ideas that work for me – and I encourage you to research the women you admire and see what they do too! Start today and just practice. You will tweak things as your life unfolds but START this powerful habit for change now…

I multitask in the morning. While I am getting ready, I have motivational You Tube videos playing in the background OR a book on Audible that I am listening too. Since everything I am reading or watching is focused on birth or self-improvement, I am getting two things done at once and it automatically makes me feel more productive. Since I have a special needs daughter, I have learned to make the most of every minute I have available.

Daily, morning meditation/prayer has not only become a habit but it has become an essential practice in my life. As I learned more about what successful people had in common, a solid meditation practice was on everybody’s list. I figured it couldn’t hurt – it’s just sitting quiet for a few minutes and I probably needed a bit of slow down in my life. What I found was that it turned my mind to more gratitude for all that I had been blessed with and gave me a chance to listen to the whisperings of my heart. My days simply go better when I take this time to devote to God/Spirit/Universe. I am calmer and more focused on what I have to get done and I accomplish more. My excuse of not having enough time to meditate evaporated when I took note at how much time I scrolled through social media feeds each day. So I scroll fifteen to twenty minutes less a day and say thank you for fifteen to twenty minutes more.

Setting intentions every day was made simple when my friend gave me the 5 minute journal for Christmas. It is proven that if you write down your goals/intentions that they are more likely to happen. This little journal takes hardly any time and keeps me on track. Intentions for the day are recorded along with things that I am grateful for. They are in my mind and my day kind of follows that flow. At the end of the day, you sit back down and recap how you did. It’s a great tool!
All of these tools keep your mindset in a positive frame and allow for forward momentum. It can be a slow start to getting a new business off the ground and that can feel heavy and overwhelming. The choice is – you can stay focused on how bad that sucks OR how you can prepare everyday for the babies that are on their way. I have found that when work is your passion – it’s not work. I have also found that there are some things in business that are NOT my favorite ways to spend my time but they are necessary in owning my own business. A positive mindset keeps me motivated in getting the “chores” done so I can get back to the sexy parts that I love.

It takes action to get your “job” to where you see it working for your life. For some that may be one birth a month and for others it may be four. You will learn what feels like a good fit for you along the way. But keeping a consistent morning routine will really help you create that reality in a more efficient way!

Video Transcript:

– January is the perfect time to start with a morning routine. One of the questions that I am getting from doulas, that I get DM-ed with a lot, is what do you do everyday to build your business? It’s always forward momentum and you have to start off right. I do have several back up plans, if my usual morning routine does not work. And I’m a little crazy, so I always have a crystal, I always have a prayer, I always have a meditation, I always have some books, I always have some YouTube videos. But I’m gonna run through kind of what I do and watching doulas that have done that and been consistent, their business is better and it’s more consistent. What I do, first thing in the morning, is I get up an hour and a half earlier than my daughter who has to be at school by 6:15. I have to get up that early otherwise I’m not ready before she’s ready. She’s special needs and so there’s a lot of work to get done before she goes. So, I’m up at 4:00 usually in the morning, hopefully I haven’t worked too late in the night time and I’ve had at least three hours of sleep and I get up, I shower, I put my make up on, and while I’m putting my make up on, I’ve got a YouTube video going about entrepreneurship, or how to build your business, or how to build yourself, or morning routines by powerful women that are doing that. Something that is keeping my mind going towards what I want in my life, which is change, always change. The next thing I do, if I don’t have that going, is I have an audio book going, which is all about everything, how to be a badass, a Wayne Dyer book, Brene Brown, Oprah, like I really try and do people that uplift me, and that give me ideas for creativity. After I get showered and ready, and have watched all my videos, then I get Finley on the bus, and then I meditate. So, I have 15 to 20 minutes, where I either meditate, pray or whatever. I always have a crystal on my body. I think today I have blue azurite. The doulas gave me this in December. So, carrying that, usually have it in my bra, but that’s because I’m a wacko. Always have a crystal on me. Whether or not you believe in crystals, in the power of crystals, in the vibration of crystals, each rock or crystal represents something. So, if I’m working on love, I’m gonna have rose quartz with me. If I need grounding, I’m gonna have onyx or obsidian with me. If I need to just kind of block some negative energy from people that I know I’m gonna come in contact with, I have a dark stone with me. So, if anything, it’s a mental thing for me to kind of reset that, okay, I’m in the right frame of mind, I got this. Whether or not you believe in the vibration, and the woo-woo and we all levitate, I don’t know. The next thing I do after I meditate or pray, and I’ve watched my YouTube video is I start taking some notes, I do a few gratitudes, what I’m thankful for, so that I have that going throughout the day, and then three things that I want to do. If you get the five minute journal, it’s really simple to use, and it really keeps you on track. Just writing those five little things in the day and then when you go home at night, before bed, you go back through and say, “Oh, here’s what I learned.” And it really keeps you focused on what you want, instead of kind of what you don’t get to do everyday. Really having a plan, sets me and gets me in the creative mind to do what I need to do for work and if for some reason, I’m too tired and I can’t get up, and Finley goes, then I start my routine then. If she’s sick and she’s at home and I can’t do it, then when I’m holding her, I have my iPod going or a podcast going, or something, so that I’m pulling in the positivity that I need to keep my business going, keep my mind in that. It’s really easy, when you go through a tough time in business, and not having clients or whatever that you’re actually going through, and getting depressed and feeling, “Oh, poor me.” and, “I suck.” and, “It’s never gonna turn around.” If you feed into that, you’re exactly right. You’re gonna attract more of that. So, you really have to keep your mindset on, “It’s getting better, my baby is just gestating. “I’m on my way towards that.” One of the biggest challenges with a new doula, especially when they have zero phone calls coming in, no emails and they don’t know where to start, get your certification done. Be working on your resource list, start networking in your community. There’s so much you can be doing for your business. I always think, you know what? This baby that you want to attract, they just had sex last night. It’s gonna take nine months for that baby to get to you. What can you do in that nine months to prepare for that baby? What can you do to prepare right now? There are books you can read. There are videos you can watch. They are podcasts you can listen to. All of that can be done, so that you are ready when that mom makes a phone call.

About the author:
Care is the founder of the Birth Education Center, San Diego HypnoBirthing and Cuddle Sanctuary San Diego. She is a Birth Educator, Hypnotherapist, Birth and Postpartum Doula, INNATE Care Provider, Erotic Blueprint Coach and also professional Cuddler. She specializes in connection work between people and increasing self boundaries for a more balanced life together.