Rewire your Doula mindset! – Doula Series Ep. 1

By: Care Messer Birth Doula, Doulas, Education January 3, 2019


When it comes to doula work, we seem to focus on “how to get clients” way before we have mastered ourselves. And THAT sounds like an impossible task – mastering ourselves. But the journey of mastering ourselves is time better spent, than making New Year’s resolutions we toss out after a week. We have better businesses if we have our stuff together – WE are our business. EVERYTHING can be learned, we can always do better and there is a community out there to support your growth!

When I started my doula business, I felt lost. I was ready to attend births(even though I was nervous as heck)but I didn’t know how the families would find me. My former boss was encouraging me one day with my new adventure and suggested that if I kept reading at least fifteen minute a day(which was required at his office when I worked there), I would find the pieces I needed to succeed. He said, “You will keep looking at things as “on their way” if you are always working to improve yourself. Success is a mindset. You want to level up so that you get to work with families that are leveled up.” It was the best advice I have ever gotten!

I began my personal growth journey with “Excuses Be Gone,” by Dr. Wayne Dyer. That book changed my whole perspective. I began to see that certain stories I adopted, had created how I was living and gave me so many excuses as to why I couldn’t achieve something or be a certain way in the world. Those stories and ideas were told/taught to me and I chose to believe them because they came from trusted sources as I was growing up. The only problem was – they were not me. I was living as if they reflected me and who I was – but they did not. These stories were other people’s expectations or projections that had been passed onto me.

Reading fifteen minutes a day was simple since the phone wasn’t ringing with babies yet! I read a lot! This is a habit I enjoy 12 years later. Actually, I get even more reading time since Audible came into my life! Dr. Dyer’s book took away many of the excuses I carried as to why I couldn’t succeed in some areas of my life. The old thinking and old ideas had to be replaced with more productive thoughts and behaviors. That book gave me a great foundation to change my way of being in the world and create a successful life. I still go back to it each year to fine tune old patterns that may be showing up. Get a hard copy ladies – it will be well used and well-marked!!

About the author:
Care is the founder of the Birth Education Center, San Diego HypnoBirthing and Cuddle Sanctuary San Diego. She is a Birth Educator, Hypnotherapist, Birth and Postpartum Doula, INNATE Care Provider, Erotic Blueprint Coach and also professional Cuddler. She specializes in connection work between people and increasing self boundaries for a more balanced life together.