When it comes to doula work, we seem to focus on “how to get clients” way before we have mastered ourselves. And THAT sounds like an impossible task – mastering ourselves. But the journey of mastering ourselves is time better spent, than making New Year’s resolutions we toss out after a week. We have better businesses if we have our stuff together – WE are our business. EVERYTHING can be learned, we can always do better and there is a community out there to support your growth!
When I started my doula business, I felt lost. I was ready to attend births(even though I was nervous as heck)but I didn’t know how the families would find me. My former boss was encouraging me one day with my new adventure and suggested that if I kept reading at least fifteen minute a day(which was required at his office when I worked there), I would find the pieces I needed to succeed. He said, “You will keep looking at things as “on their way” if you are always working to improve yourself. Success is a mindset. You want to level up so that you get to work with families that are leveled up.” It was the best advice I have ever gotten!
I began my personal growth journey with “Excuses Be Gone,” by Dr. Wayne Dyer. That book changed my whole perspective. I began to see that certain stories I adopted, had created how I was living and gave me so many excuses as to why I couldn’t achieve something or be a certain way in the world. Those stories and ideas were told/taught to me and I chose to believe them because they came from trusted sources as I was growing up. The only problem was – they were not me. I was living as if they reflected me and who I was – but they did not. These stories were other people’s expectations or projections that had been passed onto me.
Reading fifteen minutes a day was simple since the phone wasn’t ringing with babies yet! I read a lot! This is a habit I enjoy 12 years later. Actually, I get even more reading time since Audible came into my life! Dr. Dyer’s book took away many of the excuses I carried as to why I couldn’t succeed in some areas of my life. The old thinking and old ideas had to be replaced with more productive thoughts and behaviors. That book gave me a great foundation to change my way of being in the world and create a successful life. I still go back to it each year to fine tune old patterns that may be showing up. Get a hard copy ladies – it will be well used and well-marked!!