One of the reasons we come to birth work is for personal growth whether we are aware of it or not. I have also found that we come into birth work with preconceived notions about working with women. These stories or beliefs about women may be lived experiences from our lives or just things that we have heard. Working together with a common goal within community is possible. Looking for women(teachers) who can model this is pure gold!
Love needs to fuel our businesses so we can hold the right kind of space for our families. Holding love in our work does NOT mean we work for free, ONLY volunteer our services as a doula, OR give discounted rates all the time. NO. It means that we replace the fear of not being good enough, smart enough or experienced enough” with – “I am exactly what they need, in this moment and I am enough.” Working on ourselves before we go into business, will help us hold better boundaries, remember our “why” for going into birth work and keep the joy when challenges come. Humility in asking for what you need, will allow the teachers and mentors to show up! Just ask and take action in that direction to prepare you for when they arrive.
It never ceases to amaze me how a desire for help can turn up someone who is ready to meet that need for you! When you look at your life and your new business, what are things you feel you need more support in? This can be personal like – “I feel jealous when other women around me are getting so many births and I’m not even getting an interview.” It can be, “I’m shy and I don’t know how to talk to people about what I am doing now.” It can be business related like, “I have no idea how to build a website or even where to start with social media.” Make a list of what is happening for you that you want change in. THEN make a list of what you desire, or where you want to get with those items. Be very specific and watch things start to appear.
One of the things to be hyper aware of is that change is uncomfortable and resetting old beliefs and patterns takes practice. Those old beliefs have kept you safe and helped you manage your world. Even though you want change, your subconscious mind needs more proof that this new direction is going to be a safe place for you to be.
It is possible to thrive in a supportive community of women. It is possible to create a supportive community if you are finding that there doesn’t seem to be one. Like-minded people gravitate towards each other. You can ask for more women like you – almost like putting out a bat signal to the Universe! Then keep working on yourself so that your vibration is getting higher to meet women and teachers who are doing the same thing. If the circle of women around you are negative and seem to stay in the same place, it is ok to move on. Create what you want and watch yourself bloom!