This Is Not How The Story Is Going To End…

By: Care Messer Birth, Labor, Pregnancy October 16, 2018

At any given moment you have the power to say, “This is not how the story is going to end.”

When it comes to a pregnancy, you won’t find many friends or strangers that don’t have a story to share or advice to offer you. I wish I could say it was mostly positive, with only a few snide comments and horror stories but that is simply not the case.

I don’t know when the shift of not supporting mothers(in such a sensitive and beautiful time) went from fantastic, loving and kind to just plain horrible but it is just our reality now. There are however, women that have had beautiful births – look for them. There are women who have had hard pregnancies and difficult births but have weathered the storm in strength and peace. Both of these women have a few things in common.


*They sought out people to support them and ignored the negativity.

*They educated themselves with the best education they could find.

*They found their voice and used it to protect their baby and their baby’s birth.

*They dealt with personal issues of fear, anxiety and sometimes trauma before this baby came. *They looked at the whole picture and decided that they would bring their baby into the world in love.

Going with the flow of how your baby decides to enter is the best way to not repeat some of those horror stories that you’ve heard. You don’t have to listen or take in all the negative when it comes to your baby’s birth. Your babies story hasn’t even happened yet but people already have a tragic end to it.

That is your choice mama. Keep the tragedy or create some magic for this birth story.

Seek out those that are willing to support you and talk you through any dark moments. The only thing you have any control over is “how you feel in the moment about that moment.”

CHOOSE to stay steady, calm and strong. Whether you believe it or not you have an opportunity to tap into power and energy that cannot be seen with the eye. Whether you call those Spirits, Angels, or your Ancestral lines, those women never leave your side. Use them – they are there to help you.

You are the guardian of this birth but it is not yours. Your baby is the ultimate decider of how things go. Choose to connect early and get in touch with your heart and gut instincts regarding your baby. Your instincts will always be right but you need to listen to them. You always have a choice as to how you perceive what is happening and how you handle it.


About the author:
Care is the founder of the Birth Education Center, San Diego HypnoBirthing and Cuddle Sanctuary San Diego. She is a Birth Educator, Hypnotherapist, Birth and Postpartum Doula, INNATE Care Provider, Erotic Blueprint Coach and also professional Cuddler. She specializes in connection work between people and increasing self boundaries for a more balanced life together.