Free Online Birth Class | What Is This All About?

By: Care Messer | Birth, Education, Pregnancy | June 27, 2019

I’ve gotten SO many questions about this free online class – How to Avoid an Unnecessary Cesarean – so I am addressing them in this video. We don’t have to be scared to give birth – and with evidenced based information, we can release that fear and make informed choices for ourselves and our baby. One of the reasons I chose to make this class free is because this education needs to get to all families – no matter what their financial situation is. If you have access to the internet – you have access to this information. This class is for every woman, so she can have accurate, scienced based information(not tradition based information) before making choices about her body. Early education is key to a positive birth experience and this class will open up ideas for feeling more in control and less fearful about birth. The class addresses our healthcare system and the actual statistics of why we are not having good outcomes with birth compared to other countries. We don’t have to be a statistic and the only way that will change – is if we get educated. This is a prevention class for doulas and educators so they can get it to moms ahead of the big decisions – care providers, birthing environment and what interventions they will choose. This class is a gift of love and we hope you are ready to receive it and act on the information within it. Your baby only gets one birth – and should be spectacular!

Video Transcript:

Today’s video may go a little personal with me, because I’ve been getting a lot of questions on why I created this free online class. One, why is it called unnecessary cesarean because cesareans aren’t all bad? And why is it free? We’re going to talk about that today. First, I want to address the question of why is it free. It is a really good class. It’s an hour long and it’s power packed with information and it’s something that I would show as a presentation, or teach in a setting with students. This class is a way of me giving back to the birth community and supporting my family in ways that you don’t even understand. Some of you don’t know that I have a special needs daughter that is a quadriplegic, that doesn’t walk and doesn’t talk, and she is the reason that my whole life switched into the birth world. When she was two years old, an opportunity came up for us to go to Spain and swim with wild whales in attempts to wake up her brain because the whales and the dolphins speak to baby’s brains in ways that they haven’t found another way to do it. The trip was $17,000. And within three weeks, the birth community raised $17,000 for myself, my older daughter Finley and another adult to go to Spain for three weeks and swim with wild whales in Spain. That trip to Tenerife absolutely changed the trajectory of my daughter’s life, hitting milestones that she probably wouldn’t have hit and released a lot of fear and pain that this whole experience has brought to our family, and we were able to start fresh. The other bit is, the birth community also last year helped us raise funds and sent to all their contacts to help raise funds for a new wheelchair van for Finley, that also changed our life. This birth community and when I say it’s just San Diego’s it’s not San Diego’s because it outreach to the world and there were people that donated from everywhere. There’s no way to thank all those people ever, but there is a way to give back, and this class is a starting point for that. Education reaches everyone at their own time when they’re ready for it. And I wanted this to be a starting point to start preventing birth trauma, and allowing women to come into their power, and that’s why it’s free. I don’t want any woman to not have access to this class, and I don’t want them to say $10, $20, $50 was too much. If you have access to a computer at a library, if you have access to internet on your phone, it’s available to you anywhere in the world, and that is my way of giving back. The format for how this class was created is me answering the questions and giving four simple guidelines in how to prevent birth trauma, how to find your voice in the birth room and how to not have the kind of birth you had on the first one, as well as protecting first time moms in not making those same mistakes as the second time moms coming into my class with regrets about their birth experience. What I was hearing time and time again is I didn’t know, nobody told me, I was so scared, I was so fearful. I didn’t know to ask the right questions when that came up. And the only reason you are fearful is because of how we portray birth in this country. It’s scary, it’s terrifying, It’s going to be a bad outcome, someone has to take care of it for you, you’re not capable of it. And we are so belittled and feel so small when it comes to birth, which is one of the most powerful, amazing, sexy, delicious experiences of our lives that we stop before we even start. And we have walls up to protect ourselves, which I totally understand because I had those same walls. But once we get a little education, and once we have the right support everything opens up and our true power to push ourselves to an edge we didn’t even know we could push ourselves to an edge to, opens everything into our power, our explorers experience, and how to be a really powerful mother, because once you give birth in a way that you feel empowered and answered to and thought about and cared for, you are an amazing parent. I wonder if women even know that there are beautiful births all the time. Check out our Instagram and follow all those moms and their birth journeys, they are magical, and they are hard and it takes work and it takes planning and preparation, but the experience of coming into your own power is amazing, and women are having good birth experiences all the time with and without medication, a cesarean not a cesarean. You could have a beautiful cesarean and there are times when we need a cesarean sometimes they are life saving, but a third of all the births in America have to be by cesarean is not true. It’s the way our system is set up, It’s the way our fear manifests. So I understand why a third of our births are cesarean, but it hasn’t always been like that. We can give birth vaginally when we feel empowered, when we feel heard, and we understand what our choices are in the birth room. It’s our birth experience, these are our bodies, we shouldn’t be turning over all of our medical decisions to somebody else. We have a voice in how we want this to go down, and if we understand how our bodies work, and how they birth a baby, and how they create a baby, and how they build a baby and grow a baby, we feel a little more in control, and that’s the basis of all of this fear is we feel out of control, we’re scared and we don’t know how to move forward. I’m going to give you four ways to do that in this class, and it’s simple, and it will make you feel like you are in control, because birth is kind of a crapshoot unless you know how to make the right choices for you and your baby. So what I found from teaching all these second time moms that actually had a redo of their birth experience so the second time was better, is that they found their voice in our healthcare system. They understood it and they weren’t afraid to ask the questions they needed to. They got educated with science backed, evidence based information, so they came in prepared to all of their doctor and midwife appointments. And finally, they made the choices for their bodies and their babies, and they didn’t turn over that power to somebody else. They asked the right questions, got the information they needed, reflected back on the education they already had, and made the choice that was right for them in that moment. It makes all the difference, and it’s so simple. Birth can be a beautiful, powerful experience, and it’s going to turn your life upside down in a good way If you’re educated and you go into it with an open heart and going with the flow. You bring this baby into the world one time and it can be magic. It’s hard, It’s difficult, It’s challenging, and it’s amazing and empowering and beautiful, and you can do it. This class has four main parts, getting a really good out of hospital education, finding a good care provider and knowing what that looks like for you and what you’re looking for, creating a beautiful birth environment wherever that is, at home before you transfer into the hospital, or birth center, or at the hospital or birth center, and then avoiding unnecessary interventions, because that can be a downhill slope that you didn’t even see coming, that’s the main thing I get from second time parents who are regretting what happened to them the first time. You can do this, it’s possible. I do not create fluff content. This is a really good class and it’s available to everybody. I want you to use it, I want you to share it, I want you to use it in presentations, I want you to do whatever you need to do with it to reach more women so they can find their voice and have a beautiful birth experience with this baby. It’s so important that this information gets to people who need it, and that’s everybody.

About the author:
Care is the founder of the Birth Education Center, San Diego HypnoBirthing and Cuddle Sanctuary San Diego. She is a Birth Educator, Hypnotherapist, Birth and Postpartum Doula, INNATE Care Provider, Erotic Blueprint Coach and also professional Cuddler. She specializes in connection work between people and increasing self boundaries for a more balanced life together.


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