How to Support Surrogacy as a Doula, Part 4

By: Care Messer | Doulas, Podcast, Surrogacy | November 6, 2025


In this episode, we welcome Jamilah back for Part 4 of our Surrogacy series. This show is specifically for doulas but Jamilah also adds in some information for those of you who are considering becoming a surrogate!

Supporting a surrogate and the family they are working with has some nuances for sure. Jamilah wants you to feel very prepared from the first interview through the postpartum time. We cover common surrogacy terms, the emotional and physical challenges surrogates face, the necessity of trauma-informed care, and the often overlooked postpartum support.

I was also surprised by so much of the information including that most surrogates DON’T hire a doula! It’s way more common to hire a postpartum doula for recovery. My mouth is still on the floor from that one!

Whether you’re a doula, surrogate, or intended parent, this conversation sheds light on the intricate journey of surrogacy and the indispensable role of doulas in fostering a supportive birthing environment.

Follow the whole series:

Ep 75: The Road to Surrogacy, Part 1

Ep 76: The Road to Surrogacy, Part 2

Ep 77: The Road to Surrogacy, Part 3

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About the author:
Care is the founder of the Birth Education Center, San Diego HypnoBirthing and Cuddle Sanctuary San Diego. She is a Birth Educator, Hypnotherapist, Birth and Postpartum Doula, INNATE Care Provider, Erotic Blueprint Coach and also professional Cuddler. She specializes in connection work between people and increasing self boundaries for a more balanced life together.

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